The Art of Mastering Parenting

Why I’m Giving up on Trying to Always Function as Fun Mother

I took my children to the children’s museum, but my concern was about the germs my kids will have contact with. I have seen the research that children’s museums lurk with a number of the unpleasant germs around, but as a stay-at-home mom, I cannot attest to that. So on this day, I was especially excited to take them out. Inside the big museum amphitheater, a wrestling-themed birthday celebration was happening. Since the door opened temporarily to allow the next wave of individuals in, I had a glance inside.

I don’t use this phrase regularly, but it was glorious. The whole, huge area was decorated to the hilt. There were wrestling rings put up, fake glittering straps hooked on the wall along with adults in Hulk Hogan costumes. There was an old-looking “wrestling game” poster with all the lucky birthday kids’ face on it. What ought to be appreciated is the whole event was lovely and to any mother who would have been there would have shared the same sentiments.

But it is impossible for me to throw such sort of celebration, and is not that I don’t like having fun, but that I have quite draining social stress that’s taking a toll on me. Being in a big crowd makes me nervous. Her dad meanwhile is someone who loves such type of thing. A theatre buff in high school, he controls any point and any area with regard to having fun. He’d host a magical unicorn soiree at any place in the world or such birthday parties with Hulk Hogan costumes in a split of a second.

Although my apprehension is only tiny part of the problem, there is another reason as to why am not the “fun” mother like most mothers. I can’t keep up in arranging birthday parties together with Hulk Hogan costumes or inside an exhibition hall. But I do not see a reason as to why I cannot throw the best birthday party our small city has ever seen, and a similar one like the one I saw people wearing Hulk Hogan costumes. But the only hindrance is that I will be stuck with colossal expenses that can lead misappropriating my savings.

Conversely, by relieving myself of this heaviness to throw a celebration that leaves people talking for months, I am taking that energy to somewhere it will be worthwhile. I am leaning into motherhood full-time. I am giving them the affection, memoirs, and attention that they deserve at this stage in their own lives.

Her birthday is soon approaching and I am still undecided on what we’ll do. We might organize for the nozzle in the garden and let her friends splash themselves silly. Or, we may organize one similar to the museum where children could opt to wear Hulk Hogan costumes to make it more memorable.